For 30 years I’ve failed to find ‘the one’ – or they’ve failed to find me. Almost every TV show, film, song and piece of marketing tells me that this is what I need to be looking for. I’m led to believe that to find this one person will be the ultimate, and highest experience of love, fulfilment and joy. I’m told that when do finally find the one love of my life I will achieve full relational contentment. Trouble is, I hate feeling like an under-achiever so I’m left with no choice but to throw a into these disneyfied works. Here it is: what if we’re allowed more than one love of our life at any one time?! … More The Loves Of My Life
I was surprised at being encouraged by the ‘Capable Wife’ in proverbs 31. … More The Ideal Woman
Now that my year at the Community of St Anselm is over, the inevitable questions are rolling in, questions that want me to sum up my experiences in some way: the best moment, the hardest thing, the most important lesson… All good questions, and ones that I am of course asking myself. But right now, … More A Year in Gods Time in 8-16 pictures
As part of our time at St Anselm, the whole community leaves for a month to spend time in retreat somewhere. During this month I spent three weeks at Mucknell Abbey, a Benedictine community of 12 brothers and sisters. More reflections will follow, but here is something I wrote for their website, giving some initial … More Choosing the better part
A story of a talking donkey and how it shows us more of the mystery of Jesus. … More Balaam’s Donkey & Jesus
As an extrovert, Christmas pushes all my social buttons – both the good and the bad. I try to cram in as many social events as I can throughout this festive period for two main reasons: The first is that I genuinely love nothing more than a good festive knees up and spending time with … More Be In Us: an extrovert’s guide to Christmas invites
Why doesn’t God just ‘zap’ us? Some musings on the incarnation of God. … More The Genie or the Lamb?
I’ve now been living in the Community of St Anselm for four weeks. At times it feels like it’s been a lot longer and at other times I’m aware that we are only at the very beginning of our journeys – both individually and as a community. In this article I want to share some features of our life at Lambeth. … More Culture Shock
My friends and I love playing the game Jungle Speed. In essence it’s a game of snap, just that the cards are a bit more complex and when you ‘snap’ with someone, you race to be the first to grab a piece of wood from the middle of the table. The tricky thing about Jungle Speed is that there are lots of cards that look the same, but have a very tiny difference, and there are penalties for making a grab for the piece of wood in error. When someone does this, my friends and I have a habit of (rather annoyingly) pointing out how the cards are “The same, but different” in a very patronising tone. We think we’re funny (unless of course we are on the receiving end). But since someone pointed out that we have this game in our common room, I’ve been thinking about how this game summarises my first few days at the Community of St Anselm. … More The Same, But Different: Reflection 1 from the monastery.
I wasn’t looking to leave Canterbury. I enjoy my life here. I love my friends, my community, my church and my professional networks. But life sometimes springs surprises on us and I am now one month away from moving to Lambeth Palace to join a monastic community for 10 months. I love telling the story about how this came about because for me it is evidence of someone with ways that are higher than mine and it also shows me that our life’s status quo can be interrupted in timely, positive and surprising ways. … More Moving to the Monastery